AbOUT cRYING...
Yesterday I Criedby Iyanla VanzantI came home, went straight to my room,sat on the edge of my bed,kicked off my shoes,unhooked my bra,and I had myself a good cry.I'm telling you,I cried until my nose was running all overthe silk blouse I got on sale.I cried until my ears were hot.I cried until my head was hurting so badthat I could hardly see the pile ofsoiled tissues lying on the floor at my feet.I want you to understand,I had myself a really good cry yesterday.Yesterday, I cried,for all the days that I was too busy,or too tired,or too mad to cry.I cried for all the days, and all the ways,and all the times I had dishonored,disrespected, anddisconnected my Self from myself,only to have it reflected back to mein the ways others did to methe same things I had already done to myself.I cried for all the things I had given,only to have them stolen;for all the things I had asked for thathad yet to show up;for all the things I had accomplished,only to give them away,to people in circumstances,which left me feeling empty,and battered and plain old used.I cried because there really doescome a time when the only thing leftfor you to do is cry.Yesterday, I cried.I cried because little boys getleft by their daddies;and little girls get forgotten by their mommies;and daddies don't know what to do, so they leave;and mommies get left, so they get mad.I cried because I had a little boy,and because I was a little girl,and because I was a mommywho didn't know what to do,and because I wanted my daddy to be therefor me so badly until I ached.Yesterday, I cried.I cried because I hurt.I cried because I was hurt.I cried because hurt has no place to goexcept deeper into the pain thatcaused it in the first place,and when it gets there,the hurt wakes you up.I cried because it was too late.I cried because it was time.I cried because my soul knew that I didn't knowthat my soul knew everything I needed to know.I cried a soulful cry yesterday,and it felt so good.It felt so very, very bad.In the midst of my crying,I felt my freedom coming,Because Yesterday,I cried with an agenda.(Iyanla Vanzant,from her book Yesterday I Cried:Celebrating the Lessons of Livingand Loving)
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